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Chanuka is beautiful… and it can also bring things to the surface.

More time together.

More expectations.

More pressure to feel “connected,” “happy,” or “grateful.”

And sometimes, instead of warmth, what shows up is frustration, distance, or a quiet sense of disappointment.

For this Coffee & Connection, I did a Q&A-style episode to address what came up for you over Chanuka in your marriage, your home and yourself.

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Can you relate to the feeling of swinging between these two extremes? –

On one side, we focus almost entirely on what isn’t working in our relationships, replaying the challenges and feeling discouraged or disconnected.

And on the other side, we try to push past the hard parts and “just see the good,” telling ourselves to be grateful and positive, even when something still feels unresolved.

Neither of those extremes truly brings peace or connection.

Join me for a conversation on the power of recognizing all three: our victories, our challenges, and our gratitudes, to help us see our lives and relationships more honestly and more clearly.

We’ll explore how holding all three at once can soften tension, create emotional safety, and help us show up with more presence and compassion in our marriages, our families, and within ourselves.

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One topic that comes up a lot in my coaching is how hard it can feel when life isn’t smooth.

When something feels off in your marriage, in your family, or even in yourself, and it quietly leads you to wonder, “What did I do wrong?”

Those moments can also bring a deep sense of disconnection from your dreams, from your husband and family, and even from Hashem.

Join me for a real conversation about moving through these messier moments of life.

Not how to push the feelings away, but to understand how to stay calm and connected, even when life feels unclear.

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After last week’s Coffee & Connection, so many of you reached out saying how comforting it was to finally hear:

“You are normal. Your marriage is normal. Your experience is normal.”

And I’m so glad it landed.

But I also know something else tends to happen next (and it too is so normal!)

Even after you know you’re normal, the old fears can pop right back up.

Because those fears lived inside you for years. They shaped how you interpreted your marriage, your husband, yourself. They became the background noise of your inner world.

So of course they don’t disappear overnight.

That’s why this week’s session is all about how to stay calm, clear, and connected even when the old fear rises.

That’s the work that changes everything.

Episode 206 – November 24th, 2025

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For this week’s Coffee & Connection, I want to talk about something so many women struggle with quietly:

What do you do when your real experience in marriage and intimacy doesn’t match the way people talk about it in classes, articles, or even Shalom Bayis workshops?

So many women feel confused or even ashamed because they don’t see themselves in the mainstream conversations. And when you feel “different,” it’s easy to think something is wrong with you… or with your marriage.

But here’s the thing:

Your experience might be normal — just not the version people talk about publicly.

So today on Coffee & Connection, I’m sharing three real, common, but rarely spoken-about experiences that so many women think they are the only ones experiencing.